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At 4:02am on February 3, 2009, 1staind stacey said…: thank you. u have GREAT taste in music too....hahaha

At 3:26am on February 3, 2009, 1staind stacey said…: oh ,i do,he is very precious to me and we are very close. i make sure the lines of communication are always open and he knows he can come to me with anything, i will stand by him thru whatever. just so you know, i'm a very good listener. it will be 13 years this july that i lost my mother to AIDS and i know it never gets easy, so feel free message anytime : )

At 1:34am on February 3, 2009, 1staind stacey said…: first of all thanx for the add : ) second , i'm so sorry for your loss, it is hard to lose a loved one.

At 3:40am on January 26, 2009, Shannon said…: Thanks for the comment. It means alot to me. I am not mad at him anymore, I just miss him. I know that he loved me and wouldn't want me to feel bad, but Thank you for reminding me. I know that addiction is a disease. It doesn't ever go away, but it can be treated. I just know, that if one person is helped by reading that blog then I feel better. Thank you very much for the kind words. You are a very nice lady.

At 9:06pm on January 23, 2009, Shannon said…: That is a very nice poem. Today is the one year anniversary of the death of my step-brother. He overdosed on Oxycontone and Xanax. He was 24, 3 weeks before he turned 25. It never really sinks in.

At 7:55pm on January 20, 2009, Danielle said…: yeah..its hard for people to stop and enjoy the natural highs of life..or even know that they exsist! Just keep doing what your doing, cause im sure you have touched more people than you even know!

At 3:22am on January 17, 2009, Danielle said…: all I can say is WOW...very moving poem. I hope peace finds you some day, even if just for a moment. I cannot imagine going thru what you have.

At 10:01am on January 16, 2009, Maureen McKercher said…: Thank you for the compliment! If u ever need to talk i'll always listen!! The music of Staind helps me stay sober, i owe it 2 myself to do the right thing!! It is a struggle everyday for me but i have hope today. I used to never have hope i lived for the moment my whole revolved around my next high. I used for 14 years & in that time i've been homeless, begged for food, slept in woods in the winter but ya kno whats crazy i wouldn't change a thing!! The things that happen 2 u shape the person that you r-ya kno?

At 5:54pm on January 14, 2009, Maureen McKercher said…: Im a heroin addict 10 months clean, i'm sorry for your loss. I feel your pain i really do. This poem is very powerful. Drug addicts suffer mostly by there own hand & if ur not an addict its almost impossible to understand. Its a disease. He was sick don't blame yourself. I have lost everything from my 10 year old daughter to my freedom, my family but thank god i still have my life. I will pray for you & everyone else i know who's died from this horrible disease!!!

At 1:09pm on January 14, 2009, Amanda said…: You are very welcomed. I am terribly sorry for your loss. I could not the pain that you went through losing your son. I could not imagine losing one of my kids and finding the strength to go on like you have... You are very brave and strong. I will keep you in my prayers...

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Birthday: July 7, 1957

Favorite Staind Song: It's Been Awhile

Favorite Music

Staind, Nickelback, Counting Crows, Three Doors Down, Foo Fighters, Seether, Shinedown, Puddle of Mudd, Incubus, Grateful Dead, Pink Floyd, CSN, Lincoln Park, Black Crows, Queen, Bebe King, Johnny Lang, Kenny Wayne Shepard, Stevie Ray Vaughn, Aretha Franklin, Marvin Gaye, Stevie Wonder

Favorite Movies

Beetlejuice or any Tim Burton movie, What About Bob, Secret Window or anything Johnny Depp, The Five People You Meet in Heaven, Dracula - old and new - Gary Oldham sucks the best. lol

Favorite Websites

http://www.nida.nih.gov/scienceofaddiction
http://www.drugfree.org/

About Me

I was lucky enough to be born in Memphis. The birth place of the blues, and rock-n-roll. I love music and envy the talent of those blessed with such ability.

I lost my only son to the disease of addiction. One night I was flipping through channels and heard for a brief second as I surfed channels, a sound that grabbed me instantly. I had to flip back to the channel.

The voice and melody caught me first. Then as I listened to the lyrics of "It's Been Awhile" I was blown away. It made me feel like my son was talking to me. I have been a fan ever since.

No one describes the pain quite like Aaron in his songs.

"For You" is another one of my favorites though it makes me ache because I feel guilty of the things he sang about - couldn't save my son. I wasn't hearing my son's cries...

Ever seen Staind live?

YES - I would give my right arm to talk to Aaron.

Aaron's music points out that no one wakes up one day and decides to become an addict. Addiction is a shameful choice according to society.

Even the addict hates themselves for not being able to stop using. It strips them of their self esteem. No one hates addiction more than the addict.

Medical doctors still ignore the progress science has achieved in the treatment of the disease. The medical community still believes it is a personal choice.

Why waste time on a addict?

I have the utmost respect for someone who has battled the disease and overcome the demon. But it will always be a battle to keep it at bay.

No one is braver than an addict struggling to get clean. I am so proud of each addict who reaches sobriety and clean living. You are the bravest people I know.

For My Son

I wrote this poem for my son who I lost to addiction

If I Should Die At Twenty-Three

If I should die at twenty-three
Tell me what becomes of me
Will I be forgiven all of my sin
Or made to try living over again

If I should die at twenty-three
Demons finally setting me free
And knowing you did your best
Please understand I need to rest

If I should die at twenty-three
Know that death has set me free
Please forgive me for your grief
I know my stay here was so brief

If I should die at twenty-three
Can you go on after burying me
And remember good times past
Wonderful memories meant to last

If I should die at twenty-three
Will the world remember me
Will it be kind and judge me not
For lessons learned and then forgot

If I should die at twenty-three
I’ll never forget your love for me
No matter time, distance, or space
Always I’ll see your loving face

Son, you died at twenty-three
Now tell me what becomes of me
Must I go on after burying you
Tell me Son what shall I do

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Good Site - Great People

This is a really good site. I love the videos and the jukebox. Would love more songs to tune into when I am online but all in all this is a good place that will get better.

I definitely like the people here. I see many people here because the message of the music speaks to our inner turmoil and struggles. Nothing like being around like minded people. The people here are kind and non-judgmental which I really like.

I watched Aaron perform "Comfortably Numb" at the The Mud… Continue

Posted on February 3, 2009 at 2:54am — 2 Comments

You killed my son

Today has just been tough. All days are tough since I lost my only son Jason. He died 11 years ago on February 28th...

I know that the disease of addiction killed my son. I know the LSD he took caused my son to wander up three flights and climb out of a stained glass window tumbling to his death.

Brain dead... that building caused me to have to make the decision to remove my child from life support, lay down on the bed with him, my ear to his chest, listening to his last… Continue